tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7422098572944655531.post-5579303521097431872007-09-01T01:22:00.000-07:002007-09-02T23:28:38.752-07:002007-09-02T23:28:38.752-07:00Well my second Blog. I must say I was pleased with my last blog. I think in the past I would of tried to get it perfect, but like my counselling sessions, I try to 'go' with things and in someones famous words, just try to be good eneugh. I do love counselling. It has always surprised me, at the extraordinary richness in each life, and how like the unfinished universe, each one of us is unfinished. But always, we are up against our history(psycholigy) but thankfully we are designed to go forwards. That when there is the motivation and reasion, who knows what is possible. One of the liberating things I came to in my early formatory counselling experiance, was that I didnt have to be the 'expert'. That at the end of the day, were all worlds experts on ourselves, with our own uniqueness,style and way.I think one of the changes thats taking place in the world around us, is the breakdown of all authority, here and abroad. Like everything, there is a positive and negative. Plus always, no decision is singular (even if it seems to be)but has multiple causes, and multiple effects. So one aspect of the breakdown of faith in external authorities parents,politicians,priests,prophets etc etc) may hint at the gradual shift from some external criteria to increased belief and trust in ourselves. In other words, becoming our own authority.This raises the question, of what is true morality?It is a shame if it is imposed from the outside rather than from a true reasioning about what fits and true.In other words not some blanket law imposed on each individual, but everything decided according to its own merit, and not this years fashion. This arrises so much in the Clients I see, where they discover this internal battle going on between how they are trained to behave and think from conditioning(psycholigy), and a sense of what their own vague selves are saying. The first one causing guilt, fear,duty and compromise etc and the other one, when acted upon, causing freedom,certainty and new birth, even if that path may initiilay cause lonliness,and judgement from others! This reminds me of a client, who spent years taking a bullied back seat in her relationship, and after a session, oddly decided to do a mechanics course without her husband knowing. Intrestingly a few weeks later her husbands starter motor broke, and he couldnt fix it. Well you know the rest, she secretly went to the car,removed the starter and put in a new one!! The next session I saw her, were talking about a new emergance. It wasnt some downtrodden women who appeared, but a Lady, in her own right, with a story to tell of new found respect in herself and a confused husband! So lesson for me today, is try to be myself. Thanks21st century counsellinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00314004208827904688letting.go@ntlworld.com0